Boyfriends who surf

I've heard quite a few of my girlfriends talk about how they would find it hard to go out with someone who didn't surf. They've told me how they've had partners who didn't understand when they wanted to get up early and get in the ocean or when they want to just surf all weekend. Their significant others get jealous - especially if they're boys. I've had girlfriends who've managed to convince their boyfriends to learn to surf and have organised to get them a board and to teach them, which is cool. But other women find it difficult to negotiate the ways that their surfing impacts on their relationship and vice versa. I've talked a bit about that before, but it's something I'm still mulling over and still hearing people talk about...

I know lots of guys have the same kinds of experiences, although I've noticed many of my male friends end up with non-surfers. I suppose that women have a bigger surfing pool to paddle in really, but still, it doesn't necessarily seem to be such a point of contention with guys as it does for women. I mean, I don't think I've ever seen some girl's boyfriend sitting on the beach waiting while she surfs! Unless he's watching the kids so she gets a turn in the waves as well - sharing waves and sharing parenting.

In fact, as I think about it, I can't think of any of my girlfriends who have a partner who doesn't (or in one case, didn't used to) surf. It's usually something that they share together and although they'll often compromise and surf different breaks some of the time, they also get to hang out and share waves with each other, which is pretty cool I reckon.

It's such a nice thing to be able to go surfing with the people you love.


  1. I've never seen a male significant other waiting on the beach while his girl surfs either! My husband goes for a walk or a bike ride. I started surfing after we were married and never have gotten him into it - he says the water's too cold in NorCal. Maybe someday we'll live in a tropical clime and can surf together; that would be awesome.

  2. Well I think after many years of arguing my husband and I have come to a happy agreement. I surf and he doesn't. This resolution came about after many arguments about who was going to get up early and go. who would get to go first while the other looked after the kids. I tell you. Surfing was a major point of contention on our relationship. Thank god he gave up. Luckily he's now become a fair weather surfer and we enjoy lovely holiday surfs together. There is something lovely about surfing with someone you love. Just not all the time.


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